I have been in martial arts for a very long time now. 32 years this coming fall. It is my life, my path and my way. I have never gone around acting like a tough guy, bragging about fighting, or tournament wins (Yes I have had fights and many tournament wins) because it goes against what I stand for. Leading by example!
Recently I had a comment on one of my video on the school site. It is my son Master Curt doing red belt cane techniques. The “gentleman commented that I seemed to “have a good heart, but what I am teaching could get someone killed, so I better go back to learning something about martial arts.” This is a paraphrase. I replied and he apologized. Normally don’t bother, however this time I did. Why? Because the trend I see is someone will watch a 4 minute video, and because they are such “experts or masters” judge an entire system! If this was isolated I would not care, but I see this massive, envy / jealousy /egotism as a trend in our world in general.
No one has all the answers. I know I don’t. But if you go around with your ego sticking out someone is gonna call you out. If you are a martial artist lead by example. Show people why they should consider taking the martial path.
I know one martial arts teacher who brags his dojo is so tough he has a 95% dropout rate. All he is saying is he is a bad teacher and failure at running a school. The benefits of martial arts training come with time. You are supposed to reach students, not scare them away.